"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything.
Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that isn't really you...
...so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place."
Frequently Asked Questions about Counselling
Entering into therapy can be a daunting experience for some people and you may have lots of questions about the process. I've listed a few of the more common questions below, but if you have any other questions please feel free to contact me.
When are you available?
I currently work on Wednesday evenings at Vernon Street, Derby and Thursdays in Bulwell, Nottingham. Please see the Fees and Contact page for more information. I can also do home visits on occasion if getting to me is not possible.
Is there a waiting list?
Seeking support through your doctor or other organisations can sometimes mean a long waiting list - up to six months in some cases. Seeing a private counsellor is often a way to reduce the waiting time as they may have more availability.
Currently I do not have a waiting list so can arrange an appointment with you straight away.
How many sessions do I need to have?
The number of sessions you need to come for will depend on a number of different things and will vary from person to person. This makes it quite hard to specify how many sessions you may need. I have had clients attend for 3 or 4 sessions, and I have clients I have seen for several years (and everything in between).
We will work at the pace that is comfortable for you, and will review at regular intervals. You have the right to end therapy at any time and you're not tied into a set number of sessions.
Will I feel better immediately?
This is another difficult question to answer as it will vary from person to person. A lot of people feel a sense of release from having someone to talk to about their issues, as well as the knowledge that you are taking action to help yourself, and this can lead to feeling better from the start. At the same time therapy can be difficult, challenging and at times, painful, when working through distressing or upsetting experiences. It's important to bear this in mind, but know that I will be here to support you through these difficult moments, so you won't be going through the journey alone.
What if I come to the consultation and decide it's not right for me?
That's totally fine! The purpose of the consultation is to establish whether therapy is the right option to support you. Although it is called an consultation session, that makes it sound more formal than it really is. It's a relaxed meeting to begin to discuss the issues you're facing and to get to know each other a little.
If you decide that it isn't the right choice or the right time there's no pressure to continue, and if you decide it's not right wherever possible I will let you know of other avenues of support which may be more suitable.
Can I contact you between sessions?
Contact between sessions is not considered standard practice, however this is something that can be discussed and agreed upon between us should it be something you feel may be of benefit to you.
How confidential is the service?
Confidentiality is the most important aspect of the service that I offer. It is the foundation of establishing trust. Anything you choose to talk about in therapy remains confidential, and is not discussed outside of the therapy room. There are a few exceptions to this, where I would need to break confidentiality:
If I believe there is a serious risk to your health or the health of someone else
If you disclose any evidence of current child abuse
If requested to provide clinical notes by a court of law
If requested to do so by yourself, such as asking me to contact your GP.
In clinical supervision. As part of adhering to BACP's ethical framework I see a clinical supervisor - a therapist for therapists - every month to ensure I am working ethically. Your anonymity is preserved during supervision.
What can I expect from therapy?
There are many articles available online that cover what you can expect from therapy, and I would encourage you to do some research of your own. Personally I have found this article particularly useful in covering what expectations you can have of therapy.
What are your qualifications and training?
I hold a first class BSc (Hons) degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy from The Sherwood Psychotherapy Training Institute in Nottingham, validated by Staffordshire University. I trained for four years as part of my studies, including training in mental health, human development, trauma and the process of change. In addition to this I have had additional training in working with anger, suicide risk and safeguarding.
I have helped facilitate workshops on mental health in Leicester for Jamila's Leagcy, and held workshops in Derby on mental health awareness. I work as the head of therapy for Red Umbrella, a mental health employee assistance programme supporting organisations across the UK and abroad
Do you work in areas other than Derby and Nottingham?
Currently I am only seeing private clients in Derby and Bulwell, Nottingham. However if you are looking for a therapist in other areas, or if you feel after looking through my website that I'm not the right person to work with, I can recommend the following therapists:
Wendy Joan in Bulwell, Nottingham
Emily Reeve in Nottingham
Victoria Oliver in Leicester and Lincoln
Sheereen Sidat in Leicester.
Katie Ellis in Kirkby-in-Ashfield
Ambika Erin Connelly in Derby
Katherine Akroyd in Derby
Why "Compass Rose"?
A compass rose is the picture or icon used on a compass, map or chart that denotes the orientations of North, South, East and West. It is used to aid navigation and help establish direction.
I chose the name because it represents important aspects of my counselling practice; it helps you to find where you are, and helps you to find the direction you need. It doesn't tell you where you need to go, but helps you to find your own way. It also represents stability - regardless of how a map may change north is always going to be north - and this reflects the stability and consistency that is important to my counselling practice. Whatever difficulties you're going through and no matter how turbulent your life may be, there will be a place and a time that is set aside for you that is grounded, boundaried and consistent in it's support.