"What lies behind us and what lies before us
are tiny matters compared to what lies within us"
My name is Nathan Shearman and I am a humanistic and integrative psychotherapist working in Derby and Nottingham. I hold a first class BSc honours degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy from The Sherwood Psychotherapy Training Institute in Nottingham, where I studied for four years. I am a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), providing me with an ethical framework which I work to and a professional standard for my practice.
I have been working with clients in Derby and Bulwell, Nottingham who have been experiencing a range of issues, including bereavement, anxiety, depression, identity issues, sexual abuse (historic and current), self harm, suicidal thoughts, stress, relationship issues and trauma.
I also provide training and workshops around mental health through my sister site Compass Rose Training.
I made the decision to change careers and pursue a vocation in psychotherapy following my own personal experiences of mental health struggles and those of people close to me. I've experienced the difficulties mental health issues can cause, and seen first hand the devastating impact they can have, and I feel very passionate about getting people the help that they need. I believe every person deserves to be supported so that they can live the life that they wish for.
I work in a way that is warm, respectful, compassionate and understanding, offering you an environment that is confidential and safe, so that you can explore your experiences with me and work towards making the change you wish to see in your life.
(Just for clarification, that's me on the right)
"Sometimes the smallest acts of
change create the largest ripples
through our lives"
Is counselling right for me?
This is a bit like knowing if those new shoes in the shop window are going to be comfortable - it's hard to know until you've tried it. That's why the initial assessment session is free of charge, it allows you to come and meet me, discuss what's happening in your life and get a feel for how I work. Research shows that the most important factor in the successful outcome of therapy is the relationship with the counsellor, so it's important that you feel comfortable with me.
There can be a number of things that can get in the way of us seeking support. Sometimes there can be feelings of shame or embarrassment about what we're going through. We can feel weak, broken or failures. Other times we can be hesitant about the reaction we think we're going to get - is this person going to understand what I'm going through? What are they going to think of me? Will they judge me negatively because of how I feel or think? These are all perfectly normal thoughts to have.
I want to assure you that I will treat you with the respect and understanding that you deserve. I won't judge you for your thoughts, feelings or behaviours. Coming to counselling does not make you weak, or a failure. The clients I work with are some of the bravest, most courageous people I've ever met, It's a show of strength that you are looking to get the help you need, to take the steps to make things better.
My approach to counselling and therapy is supportive and robust enough to be effective in helping with a variety of issues. From anxiety to trauma, self harm to bereavement, the humanistic and integrative approach offers a type of therapy that can affect lasting change for a person. Like all therapies, it is not always easy, but it can be very powerful in helping you to feel better and make lasting changes.
Why choose Private Practice?
In an ideal world, there would be no need for private practice therapists. There would be lots of support available for free through the NHS, you'd have a choice of treatments, different types of therapy, different therapists to choose from, all available the moment you needed it, for as long as you need it. Unfortunately, we don't live in that ideal world.
Waiting times to see a therapist through the NHS can be anything up to six months, longer if you need to see a psychiatrist (12-18 months). When you are seen, often there is little to no choice as to what therapist you're assigned. The type of therapy most often offered is CBT, which works for some people, but doesn't for others. Often you'll be limited to six sessions. You get less choice, less control, and have to wait longer.
Seeing someone privately means that you have a choice over who you see, what type of therapy you want to try, and you can almost always see them instantly, at the point where you need the support the most. Most of the therapists I know are driven by the desire to help people, not by financial gain (I earned more money in my previous office job than do as a therapist) and we're not target driven like the NHS, where it's often about the number of clients that can be seen. We're here to help and support you every step of your journey.
The downside to private therapy is the cost. However a lot of therapists will do concessionary rates, or have offers available, and will be able to be flexible around frequency of sessions to accommodate your needs. Whilst the cost can be a big issue for a lot of people, the cost of struggling with mental health issues can be much higher.