"What lies behind us and what lies before us

are tiny matters compared to what lies within us"

About me

My name is Nathan Shearman and I am a humanistic and integrative psychotherapist working in Derby and Nottingham.  I hold a first class BSc honours degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy from The Sherwood Psychotherapy Training Institute in Nottingham, where I studied for four years. I am currently undertaking my Professional Doctorate in Psychotherapy Studies from the University of Central Lancashire. Thankfully they don't hold it against me that I was born in Yorkshire.

 

I am a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), providing me with an ethical framework which I work to and a professional standard for my practice.

 

I have been working with clients in Derby and Bulwell, Nottingham who have been experiencing a range of issues, including bereavement, anxiety, depression, identity issues, sexual abuse (historic and current), self harm, suicidal thoughts, stress, relationship issues and trauma.

I also provide training and workshops around mental health through my sister site Compass Rose Training.

I made the decision to change careers and pursue a vocation in psychotherapy following my own personal experiences of mental health struggles and those of people close to me. I've experienced the difficulties mental health issues can cause, and seen first hand the devastating impact they can have, and I feel very passionate about getting people the help that they need. I believe every person deserves to be supported so that they can live the life that they wish for.

I work in a way that is warm, respectful, compassionate and understanding, offering you an environment that is confidential and safe, so that you can explore your experiences with me and work towards making the change you wish to see in your life.

(Just for clarification, that's me on the right)

What does Humanistic mean?


There are so many different type of therapy available; Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Humanistic, Art Therapy, Drama Therapy, Transactional Analysis to name but a few. It can often be easy to get lost trying to figure out what each approach does and how they work. At their core all approaches of psychotherapy are "talking therapies" - the foundation is having someone who will sit and talk with you, listen to what you say and try to understand what you're going through. You can find out more about the different types of therapy here. My humanistic approach has three fundamental beliefs as a foundation; - that you are unique, valuable and have inherent worth just the way you are - that you see the world in your own unique way and that your way of viewing the world and the way you experience things is just as valid as mine, or anyone else's view -that given the right conditions you are capable of extraordinary and lasting change and growth. What this means in therapy is when you tell me how you're feeling or share your thoughts with me, that those thoughts and feelings will be heard, will be accepted and I will work to empathise with you - to put myself in your shoes to really understand what you're going through. Together, we can start to look at why those thoughts, feelings and sometimes behaviours might be coming up, what harm they might be causing and how we can change them. If you've never experienced counselling before it can be quite easy to picture the stereotypical scene - a sofa to lie on with a therapist sat opposite with a clipboard making notes! I want to assure you my humanistic approach is not like that. It is a way of being based on respect, warmth, compassion and understanding. You won't be judged on what you say or how you feel, but will be accepted for the unique individual that you are.




What about the Integrative part?


I describe my approach to counselling as humanistic and integrative therapy, and both parts are equally important to me. While the humanistic part is about how I view people and how I am as a person and a counsellor, the integrative part is about using my training to bring in theoretical ideas and research to help you to understand what might be going on for you. As an example understanding human development or attachment theory can give greater insight into how human emotions and behaviours are developed over time, and this can help you to understand your own thoughts and feelings better. It is this integration of knowledge and understanding, with a warm, empathetic, non-judgemental attitude, in an environment that is safe and confidential, that creates the right circumstances for bringing about change and helping you to manage what you're going through.





"Sometimes the smallest acts of 

change create the largest ripples

through our lives" 

Is counselling right for me?

This is a bit like knowing if those new shoes in the shop window are going to be comfortable - it's hard to know until you've tried it. That's why the initial assessment session is free of charge, it allows you to come and meet me, discuss what's happening in your life and get a feel for how I work. Research shows that the most important factor in the successful outcome of therapy is the relationship with the counsellor, so it's important that you feel comfortable with me.

There can be a number of things that can get in the way of us seeking support. Sometimes there can be feelings of shame or embarrassment about what we're going through. We can feel weak, broken or failures. Other times we can be hesitant about the reaction we think we're going to get - is this person going to understand what I'm going through? What are they going to think of me? Will they judge me negatively because of how I feel or think? These are all perfectly normal thoughts to have.

 

I want to assure you that I will treat you with the respect and understanding that you deserve. I won't judge you for your thoughts, feelings or behaviours. Coming to counselling does not make you weak, or a failure. The clients I work with are some of the bravest, most courageous people I've ever met, It's a show of strength that you are looking to get the help you need, to take the steps to make things better.

My approach to counselling and therapy is supportive and robust enough to be effective in helping with a variety of issues. From anxiety to trauma, self harm to bereavement, the humanistic and integrative approach offers a type of therapy that can affect lasting change for a person. Like all therapies, it is not always easy, but it can be very powerful in helping you to feel better and make lasting changes.

If you have any further questions you can try the FAQ page or feel free to contact me.

Why choose Private Practice?

In an ideal world, there would be no need for private practice therapists. There would be lots of support available for free through the NHS, you'd have a choice of treatments, different types of therapy, different therapists to choose from, all available the moment you needed it, for as long as you need it. Unfortunately, we don't live in that ideal world.

Waiting times to see a therapist through the NHS can be anything up to six months, longer if you need to see a psychiatrist (12-18 months). When you are seen, often there is little to no choice as to what therapist you're assigned. The type of therapy most often offered is CBT, which works for some people, but doesn't for others. Often you'll be limited to six sessions. You get less choice, less control, and have to wait longer.

Seeing someone privately means that you have a choice over who you see, what type of therapy you want to try, and you can almost always see them instantly, at the point where you need the support the most. Most of the therapists I know are driven by the desire to help people, not by financial gain (I earned more money in my previous office job than  do as a therapist) and we're not target driven like the NHS, where it's often about the number of clients that can be seen. We're here to help and support you every step of your journey.

The downside to private therapy is the cost. However a lot of therapists will do concessionary rates, or have offers available, and will be able to be flexible around frequency of sessions to accommodate your needs. Whilst the cost can be a big issue for a lot of people, the cost of struggling with mental health issues can be much higher.